In this video, Dr. Maxine Wright-Walters talks about panic attacks and how not to let them hijack your day. She shares that Fear is the big ingredient in a panic attack and offers a way for viewers to deal with their panic attacks. She suggests that we all should be mindful and once we practice the things she suggests our mind body and soul will relax and come into alignment. If you are having panic attacks because you are home in this Coronavirus situation, don’t allow them to hijack your day. Don’t let them control you.
Relationships are flowers you grow in your life garden. Which flowers did you plant in your Life garden? We’ve all created a relationship farm on this earth. Since the time we were born, we have been planting. Yes, we have been planting relationships. Every interaction in your life is a relationship. It can be business or personal. The same rules apply as to how they form and when and how they leave.
You planted several relationships in elementary school and some of those folks are still with you. Same for high school, college, work, church or social club. You meet folks daily in other settings and foster relationships with them too. So now, take a look at your relationship Life garden and see whats in it. Do you have those roses relationships? Beautiful but dicey? What about evergreens? Always predictable and can be relied on. These are the ones that are there through thick and thin and won’t fade away no matter how rough the ride gets. What about those lilies relationship? They start out so beautiful and strong and looks like they would last a long time but only in a short moment they fade away?
Which Flower are You?
Let’s explore. Roses are beautiful but filled with thorns. They represent the people who you have great relationships with but upon a closer look they are dicey. From afar, these roses relationships look and smell good, but as you look closer you see the cracks. Can you identify a few of these kinds of relationships in your life? Don’t be alarmed because all is not lost. You can work with these relationships and gently trim the thorn over time.
Evergreens lasts and are resilient. Always, looking green no matter the season because this is who they are at the core. We all need to have some evergreen relationships to keep us in balance. Can you think of some of your evergreen relationships and what those folks mean to you?
Lilies represent short term relationships because the life of a lily is never long. They bloom in the most beautiful colors, but they only live a few weeks, before they die. When we see lilies, we know that the Spring season is upon us. We know we are getting ready to grow. Lily relationships are those that are short but sweet. They did not last long but you enjoyed them and they gave you hope. Can you think of some of your lily relationships and reminisce on how they made you feel?
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Test Your Happiness. What exactly is happiness? And why does it evade so many folks? Happiness is a state of mind. It evades because it requires a constant commitment and re-commitment to be happy. There are various degrees of happiness and on a happiness scale of 1 to 10, folks are at every number. What makes such a difference in our degrees of happiness? (more…)
The Alphabet Circle™-Life is a Journey postulates, life happens and it happens for the best of us. Join me on this best life journey where we live in the present moment and at a higher level of consciousness. The Alphabet Circle Journey is about relationships and how they come and go from your Alphabet Circle. Every relationship shows up to help you achieve something on your way to your purpose and when its mission is complete it leaves. In this Best Life concept we do not get upset because we understand that every relationship is finite.
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Life as a bunch of banana sounds crazy, but it is very sane. Do you know your life should be like a banana? You ask why? See, a banana never grows as a finger or one banana, all by itself. It grows as a bunch of bananas. And this bunch is made up of hands of bananas. You buy a hand of ripe bananas in the grocery store. Yes, even this hand of banana, though by itself at the time you bought it, is still with other fingers of banana. Yes, the fingers make up the hand just like it is on your hand.
What does the bunch banana concept means
What does this mean? Life was not meant to lived with you, by yourself. Just like the banana’s DNA being programmed to grow as a bunch, you were meant to be with and interact with other humans like yourself. This is what brings a human being to life. Being in relationships with others.
What should you Do
Find you some other fingers and hands, and grow into a bunch of humans, just like the banana. If you think about it, there are some other folks on this planet that can co-exist in a relationship with you. Find them and share your thoughts, ideas and opinions. Have a cup of coffee together. Think about what it is you like to do and find others who like to do the same. Join a meetup group as it can change your life.
What am I saying to you? Life is about fostering relationships. Think of yourself as and get you a bunch of interactions because this is good for your mental health. You don’t need to be alone because you don’t have to. You can be just like a bunch of banana, especially as we approach this Christmas season. Spend some time with others and see how it brightens up your perspective.
What is your expectation of your friend, co-worker, child or parents? Expectation plays a big part in any relationship and can sometimes destroy them, if we are not careful. In any relationship, we expect, whether we aware are or not, we do. We expect a particular behavior from folks with whom we interact. It could be a colleague or even a child, and the interaction can be verbal or non-verbal.
What Happens When Our Expectation is not Met
We get disappointment when others do not meet our expectations. And so I ask;
- Is that fair to you or the other person?
- How open are you to embrace others when they show up (manifests) as who they are in the experience?
- Why do we get mad when people show up in their experience as themselves?
What If We are Open to Being Present
Now, let’s focus on being open, which requires us to Be Present in the experience, there will be no disappointment. In this space, we are not judgmental, and ego plays no part in the experience because we are consciously aware of being present. Having this backdrop, how open are you to children showing up with their scars and wounds in their experiences without any judgment? But simply an appreciation for the whole organic human showing up.
We Expect of Everyone
First, I’ll focus on kids. As a teacher or parent, how often are you open to a child when he/she manifests who they are? We get shocked because society says the child should behave in a particular way, or the school rules say the child should show up as “something” they can recognize. Children, like adults are humans with scars that they carry as well as battle wounds. The problem is we expectation our children to be the standard norm. How many of our children are that? How many of our adults are the standard norm?
Second, let’s talk about grown-ups. As Broken or Wounded children we grow up into the said adults. We transfer the experience into the adult space such as a job. See, its a vicious cycle and until we address the wounds we cannot think about a resolve for these humans.
No one would not try to have an in-depth conversation with a sick person. You would wait until that person heals before doing that. Same here. We must address the wounds and get them healed, and we must recognize that the scars represent the history of the human. Be cognizant, Be aware and that’s a good start. Allow them to show up and be who they are right now. It’s OK.
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Life gave me lemons! I pondered what it meant for my life. Why, Oh Why, I asked. With no time to loose, I rolled up my sleeves and reminded myself, I was on my Alphabet Circle Journey™ and living my best life. Life had presented lemons, now what happens? You see, lemons can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on your perspective. I chose not to see lemon as the old car that was bought and the engine would not start. No way! My engine had to start. Life gave me lemons, but I was going to do something positive with it.
My Lemons Made Tea
With a winning mindset, I decided to make lemon tea, as I am very fond of hot teas. You see, raised in a system conquered by the English, hot tea became a part of who I am. Into a teapot of boiling water, I squeezed my lemons after rolling them on the table with the palm of my hands, so as to make sure all the juice would be extracted. Tea represents for me, something beautiful and good. It represents, good morning! The beauty of new dawn with great anticipation of the sun coming soon upon the horizon. Life gave me lemons and now I have tea.
Why I Made Lemonade with my Lemons
As the days rolled on, I grew thirsty. I needed to get a cold drink to quench such a thirst. Well, I had lemons and lots of them. I resorted to what I know very well to do. I made a nice tart drink of Lemonade. Not just a glass but a jug of it. Because I had so many lemons that this life had thrown at me, I could afford to splurge on the lemonade, and I made the best of it. I made sweetened and unsweetened so as to submit to my taste buds. So, here I was having hot and or cold lemonade depending on which was my preference at the time of drinking. I learned to love this lemonade because I knew it was my answer to my situation. My lemons became lemonade and I loved it. I change what could have been a bad situation with action. What have you done with your lemons?