Author Archive: Dr. Maxine Wright-Walters

Relationships are Flowers in Your Life Garden

Relationships are flowers you grow in your life garden. Which flowers did you plant in your Life garden? We’ve all created a relationship farm on this earth. Since the time we were born, we have been planting. Yes, we have been planting relationships. Every interaction in your life is a relationship. It can be business or personal. The same rules apply as to how they form and when and how they leave.

You planted several relationships in elementary school and some of those folks are still with you. Same for high school, college, work, church or social club. You meet folks daily in other settings and foster relationships with them too. So now, take a look at your relationship Life garden and see whats in it. Do you have those roses relationships? Beautiful but dicey? What about evergreens? Always predictable and can be relied on. These are the ones that are there through thick and thin and won’t fade away no matter how rough the ride gets. What about those lilies relationship? They start out so beautiful and strong and looks like they would last a long time but only in a short moment they fade away?

Which Flower are You?

Let’s explore. Roses are beautiful but filled with thorns. They represent the people who you have great relationships with but upon a closer look they are dicey. From afar, these roses relationships look and smell good, but as you look closer you see the cracks. Can you identify a few of these kinds of relationships in your life? Don’t  be alarmed because all is not lost. You can work with these relationships and gently trim the thorn over time.

Evergreens lasts and are resilient. Always, looking green no matter the season because this is who they are at the core. We all need to have some evergreen relationships to keep us in balance. Can you think of some of your evergreen relationships and what those folks mean to you?

Lilies represent short term relationships because the life of a lily is never long. They bloom in the most beautiful colors, but they only live a few weeks, before they die. When we see lilies, we know that the Spring season is upon us. We know we are getting ready to grow. Lily relationships are those that are short but sweet. They did not last long but you enjoyed them and they gave you hope. Can you think of some of your lily relationships and reminisce on how they made you feel?

As an author, I love hearing from my readers. This is what keeps me writing. Leave me a comment to let me know about your rose evergreen or lily relationships.  Also, check out my Authors Web site at Https://www.thealphabetcircle.com

Test Your Happiness

IMG_4306Test Your Happiness. What exactly is happiness? And why does it evade so many folks? Happiness is a state of mind. It evades because it requires a constant commitment and re-commitment to be happy. There are various degrees of happiness and on a happiness scale of 1 to 10, folks are at every number. What makes such a difference in our degrees of happiness? (more…)

Is Your Expectation Destroying You?

What is your expectation of your friend, co-worker, child or parents?  Expectation plays a big part in any relationship and can sometimes destroy them, if we are not careful. In any relationship, we expect, whether we aware are or not, we do. We expect a particular behavior from folks with whom we interact. It could be a colleague or even a child, and the interaction can be verbal or non-verbal.

What Happens When Our Expectation is not Met

We get disappointment when others do not meet our  expectations. And so I ask;

  1.  Is that fair to you or the other person?
  2. How open are you to embrace others when they show up (manifests) as who they are in the experience?
  3. Why do we get mad when people show up in their experience as themselves?

What If We are Open to Being Present

Now, let’s focus on being open, which requires us to Be Present in the experience, there will be no disappointment. In this space, we are not judgmental, and ego plays no part in the experience because we are consciously aware of being present. Having this backdrop, how open are you to children showing up with their scars and wounds in their experiences without any judgment? But simply an appreciation for the whole organic human showing up.

We Expect of Everyone

First, I’ll focus on kids. As a teacher or parent, how often are you open to a child when he/she manifests who they are? We get shocked because society says the child should behave in a particular way, or the school rules say the child should show up as “something” they can recognize. Children, like adults are humans with scars that they carry as well as  battle wounds. The problem is  we expectation our children to be  the standard norm.  How many of our children are that?  How many of our adults are the standard norm?

Second, let’s talk about grown-ups. As Broken or Wounded children we grow up into the said adults. We transfer the experience  into the adult space such as a job. See, its a vicious cycle and until we address the wounds we cannot think about a resolve for these humans.

No one would not try to have an in-depth conversation with a sick person. You would wait until that person heals before doing that. Same here. We must address the wounds and get them healed, and we must recognize that the scars represent the history of the human.  Be cognizant, Be aware and that’s a good start. Allow them to show up and be who they are right now. It’s OK.

Your thoughts? Leave me a comment.

Life Gave Me Lemons and Guess What I Did?

Life gave me lemons! I pondered what it meant for my life. Why, Oh Why, I asked. With no time to loose, I  rolled up my sleeves  and reminded myself, I was on my  Alphabet Circle Journey™ and living my best life. Life had presented lemons, now what happens? You see, lemons can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on your perspective.  I chose not to see lemon as the old car that was bought and the engine would not start. No way! My engine had to start. Life gave me lemons, but I was going to do something positive with it.

My Lemons Made Tea

I made hot lemon teaWith a winning mindset, I decided to make lemon tea, as I am very fond of hot teas. You see, raised in a system conquered by the English, hot tea became a part of who I am.  Into a teapot of boiling water, I squeezed my lemons after rolling them on the table with the palm of my hands, so as to make sure all the juice would be extracted. Tea represents for me, something beautiful and good. It represents, good morning! The beauty of new dawn  with great anticipation of the sun coming soon upon the horizon. Life gave me lemons and now I have tea.

Why I Made Lemonade with my Lemons

As the days rolled on, I grew thirsty. I needed to get a cold drink to quench such a thirst. Well, I had lemons and lots of them. I resorted to what I know very well to do. I made a nice tart drink of Lemonade. Not just a glass but a jug of it. Because I had so many lemons that this life had thrown at me, I could afford to splurge on the lemonade, and I made the best of it. I made sweetened and unsweetened so as to submit to my taste buds. So, here I was having hot and or cold lemonade depending on which was my preference at the time of drinking. I learned to love this lemonade because I knew it was my answer to my situation. My lemons became lemonade and I loved it. I change what could have been a bad situation with action. What have you done with your lemons?

Life gave me lemons and I made lemonade

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Life is a Magnet

Your life is a magnet. Yes, it is. You may not have thought of your life in this way, but it attracts and repels. Yes, this is what a magnet does. We learn in physics that magnetism is;

“a physical phenomenon produced by the motion of electric charge, resulting in attractive and repulsive forces between objects.”

Well, this is precisely what happens in your personal space. The people who need to be in your life will be attracted to your life, and the people who do not belong in your life will be repelled. You ask, how is that possible? There is a part of you call your soul, and this thing is smart by design. Your soul searches out the other person and gives you a feeling or sensation about that individual.  The soul examines the aura of the person.

What you need to know is to be aware that your life is a magnet and it carries out its job to attract or discharge folks. Sometimes without you consciously knowing. When we live on  The Alphabet Circle Journey, we learn that our awareness is heightened and we are in tune with our souls. We embrace those who show up, and we accept those who have been repelled.

So, how do you deal with the magnet of your life? You pay attention. You embrace your highs and your lows. Know that all things happen in your life for a reason. Don’t panic when things happen. Folks in your life will either stay, embrace you or help you or they will move on. Both options are necessary for your growth.

Leave me a comment to let me know about your magnet experience.

Happy Thanksgiving — A Celebration of Gratitude

Today marks another Thanksgiving day— a celebration of gratitude.  What are you thankful for today?

Another year, another day, friends, family and even your enemies as they keep you on your toes. That being said, gratitude is an awesome word.  No matter what circumstance we find ourselves in, having a place in our souls or our hearts for gratitude gives us the opportunity to go on. Its give us not only the wisdom but the energy to put one foot in front of the other and take the first step and the second and then the third.

Gratitude is what gets us through dark days, and yes, we do have them. However, when you can put the thought of your situation aside, then you can think about being grateful. It opens up a world of opportunities for blessings and miracles for you.

Have you ever been in that situation, or know someone who’s been there? Pining away, wallowing in self pity because something dramatic has happened in his or her life? This may have gone on for years, or weeks,  or days. Suddenly the thought of gratitude filters through to the mind and leads a transformation so huge that you have to ask the question of “what changed?” To your delight, you get an answer that he or she cannot continue the old way because it occurred to him/her that there is still so much to give thanks for and that is what will happen.

See, gratitude brings clarity, and as of today, I want you to find gratitude in every situation. If you are alive to talk about it, then you must be grateful. Be grateful for the small things and the big things will eventually happen.  Gratitude is one of the ingredients to your miracles. Yes, it is. Be grateful on this Thanksgiving Day and continue to be grateful for the rest of your life.

Leave me a comment and let me know how you plan to go forward being grateful.

 

End the Second-Guess Game & Bask in Your Best Life

How would you like not to second-guess yourself anymore? How would you like to end the Second-Guess game? What if I were to tell you that you can go through life and never second-guess yourself again? Yes, it is possible. You see, life, as it happens is quite orderly, but sometimes our response to life can be quite disorderly.

No more Second-Guess

Just as there are laws and rules that govern the universe so are our lives governed by laws and rules.    For example, if you decided you were going to fly off the top of a skyscraper, you would probably fall to your death as the law of gravity would not allow you to fly. Why? It is not possible for man to fly because there are no laws or rules in the universe to support that act. The question then becomes, what are the laws or rules that support your best life?

Living your best life is having the knowledge and belief that there is such a thing. Knowing that there is a space within which you can operate at your best (maximum potential) and minimize negative effects within your sphere. You must believe that this is possible because you cannot enter into this space with doubt in your mind, as doubt, interferes with your ability to live your best life.

Us humans were born with a brain, which is our powerhouse of thoughts. So too, each human was given a soul. Our souls communicate and transmit information to our brains. We need this  information to operate within the “maximum potential” space. The transmission of information happens continuously. You ask the question, how is this possible? See, there are two levels of connection, one at the human and the other at the soul. When you are connected at the soul level, you are in alignment because the communication takes place without any interference. There is no second-guessing here as the information is clear. You must now interpret this information and use it to live your best life. Each person’s interpretation will be different. You will understand the information within the context of your life. Be aware of what you are receiving.

For us to live our best lives, we must enter this space with an open mind. We must be present,  aware, and not be in doubt in this space because it is difficult to receive the transmitted information without being present, and if, in doubt. Be still and listen to what you hear in your space of maximum potential so you can pay attention to what, and how you feel. You will always have peace within this space. Doubt blocks or interferes with the transmission of information, so play no more Second-Guess game. Live in confidence.

Do you believe you can do this? If yes, let me know how. If no,  let me know why.