Monthly Archive: February 2018

Reflection Engagement Task

Reflection takes place at all times, but particularly at the start of every new year and it’s a very good thing to do.  It brings a lot of things in perspective for you. But reflection without a plan is fruitless, so let’s go on this journey together. Let’s perform our Reflection Engagement task, so our 2018 can be our best year yet.

Find yourself in a quiet place and take several deep breaths until you feel a calm inside of you. Take as much time as you need for each reflection item. There is no rush. This is all about you. First, lets reflect on the things that we are happy with.  Next, let’s reflect on the things in our lives that we are not happy with.  Then let’s focus on the things we want to change. Now, focus on the things in our lives we can accept with no change at this time.

What do we do with all this is your next thought? And it makes sense. Write down all your thoughts and be honest with yourself. There is no punishment or shame in the answers you have come up with, so just write them all down.  Below I have provided you with a table in which to work. Click on the Reflection Engagement Form Link below.

Start with the  first column labelled “my thoughts” and look within and spend some time thinking about it. Close your eyes and take deep breaths. When your thoughts are clear, start writing them down. List the things  you are happy with in your life and next the things that you are not happy with.  Then list the things you want to change about your life and then the things you can accept in your life as is today.  Now, its time to work on the  “what am I going to do about it ” column. For the things you are not happy with list what you are going to do about those things and exactly how you will go about it. For this task things can also be situations.

I encourage you to write down every thought that comes to you. It may not make sense initially, but it will later when it all comes together.

Reflection Engagement Form

Leave me a message and let me know about some of your Reflections.

Are you gift wrapped and stored

Are you gift wrapped and stored? Do you know for some people you are so special to them that they allow you no room for  growth? Yes, for some people, they carefully wrap and place you in  a box like a gift except, this gift is stored, not given to anyone.  They believe that they are taking good care of you by wrapping and placing you in a very nice box.

This  box is then placed on a shelf or tucked away in a cupboard. This box is now stored and so are you. But how does this affect you? In this box there is no room for growth, no room for imagination, or any kind of action. In other words, the  light is not shining on you.

Examine your situation in real life. Are there people who care about you so much that they want to protect you by gift wrapping,  and placing you in a nice box, or have they already wrapped and placed you in  this box? These people could be friends, family members or supervisors at work. I will tell you that they mean you no harm. Their actions are not malicious. From their vantage point,  they believe they’re helping you. And yes, they are, but this kind of help is not the right kind, as it  will eventually destroys you. You will never blossom into who you are supposed to be, or even solve the problems you came into this work to resolve because you are stuck.

In such a box,  as you life is going nowhere you cannot understand why. But your physical world looks great as the beautiful  wrapper represents it so well.

If you  find yourself in this kind of box, please unwrap yourself, stand up and step out of it. Place your feet firmly on the ground and keep walking. Walk away from a dependent situation to a one of self reliance.

 

Leave me a comment to  let me know if you’ve been gift wrapped.