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False Expectation Appearing Real

fear3Are you experiencing, FEAR— False Expectation Appearing Real?  Fear is a powerful emotion and can have a devastating effect upon its victim. I want to tell you that there is a place in your life that we will call the Fear Zone. When you enter this zone, it does not matter why, you will experience fear.  In that moment you seem not to be able to focus on anything other than the False Expectation Appearing Real. Physically, for some, your palms sweat, your heart races and for others you tremble.  My encouragement today is for you to stay away from that zone.

Sometimes we go to the Fear Zone because we create expected results. Note what I am saying to you. We create the results we expect and think what it will be for a particular situation, and because we do not anticipate those results to be good, we tremble with fear. Other times we visit this zone because of fear of the unknown. We do not know what to expect and we are in fear. The fear of dying would be an example. On our Best Life journey, we must be aware of the Fear Zone.

If not dealt with, fear can be a crippling emotion. For the person experiencing this fear, it seems real. For those of you who have a FEAR experience, you know exactly what I mean by this. Regardless of what I am telling you here, in the experience of fear, it can be different if not managed.

How then do you deal with this? If possible, stay away from the Fear Zone by assuring yourself that there is not anything to be afraid of. But for those who enter, tell yourself  and believe that the experience will come to you and you will ride it out. Know that you will consciously walk through the experience as it unfolds—be open and embrace it. Live your Best Life, Your Chosen Life.

Leave me a comment to let me know how you’ve dealt with FEAR.

Why do we go back?

IMG-20141204-WA0003Why do we go back to an experience? Sometimes we try to re-live some of the moments in our earlier lives. Why do we do that? Satisfaction is the word I want you to think about.  You left that experience not satisfied and want to go back there. Your mind must have a redo because you feel you will get the missing  experience you yearn. We see this sometimes through parents living their lives through their children.

When you had the experience back then, one of two things happened. You left feeling satisfied or dissatisfied. You may not have even processed your feelings at the time and that’s okay.  The awareness of the experience can be at the conscious or sub-conscious level.  What am I telling you? You go back because you are not satisfied.   I want you to stop and think about this for a minute. What experiences are you trying to relive and why?  Explore your answer. If you are willing to accept the answer, it is probably no.

You are now in a different stage of your life   so when you go back to that experience, you may still not be fulfilled. That experience was for back then when you were in a different phase of your journey. It will not replicate.   We seek current satisfaction, from a past event, sometimes without giving it any  thought.  For this reason some folks keep going back and repeating the same behavior thinking they will have a different result.

Let me caution, I am not telling you not to ever go back, but to understand why you do?  But here is something to consider. How satisfied are you with your teenage experience or your twenty, thirty, forty, fifty, sixty, seventy or eighty something years experience? I implore you to create new experiences and live your best life. Live your Chosen Life.

Leave me a comment to let me know why you would go back to an experience.