Dr. Maxine Wright Walters

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HOW DO WE RESPOND TO EVENTS IN OUR LIVES

Our ResponseHow do we respond to events or things in our lives, especially when we feel like we have no control over the situation? For some of us we do so explosively and for others with calm. When we have an encounter with someone else we have an interaction, which results in  an experience. How we respond plays in our Best Life practice because our response carves in the experience. It can make the journey pleasant or miserable.

Let’s talk about our response.  We cannot control what others do, but we can control how we respond. A calm response is what the Best Life seeks. This may not be natural for many. However, with practice it is achievable.

I want you to Breathe, deep and hard as you embrace your experiences.  You don’t need to rush out to get the experiences because  they will come to you.  Be present and it will happen. It will happen at the right moment. Breathe, be present and allow yourself to experience each interaction and take away from it what you need.

If you sit at the ocean’s edge and notice its waves, you will see that they move to one rhythm. They tend to rise and move into the shore with a soft swoosh. You notice the togetherness of the waves as they move through different volumes of water. Also, they move in one direction. So is our path on our Life’s journey. It is one directional and we are connected to our experience. Our response is proportional to the interaction when we BREATHE and are in sync. That is, our response can be elevated as or it can be demure.  BREATHE and take note of your response.

Like we listen to a song on the radio and tap our feet, or even sing along, we must do the same with our experiences. We must breathe and absorb, so we can dance to the rhythm of our experiences.  Breathe and listen. What is the beat of the interaction? We are on our Best Life journey. Make it count.

Leave me a comment and let me know about your response to events in your life.

Why do we go back?

IMG-20141204-WA0003Why do we go back to an experience? Sometimes we try to re-live some of the moments in our earlier lives. Why do we do that? Satisfaction is the word I want you to think about.  You left that experience not satisfied and want to go back there. Your mind must have a redo because you feel you will get the missing  experience you yearn. We see this sometimes through parents living their lives through their children.

When you had the experience back then, one of two things happened. You left feeling satisfied or dissatisfied. You may not have even processed your feelings at the time and that’s okay.  The awareness of the experience can be at the conscious or sub-conscious level.  What am I telling you? You go back because you are not satisfied.   I want you to stop and think about this for a minute. What experiences are you trying to relive and why?  Explore your answer. If you are willing to accept the answer, it is probably no.

You are now in a different stage of your life   so when you go back to that experience, you may still not be fulfilled. That experience was for back then when you were in a different phase of your journey. It will not replicate.   We seek current satisfaction, from a past event, sometimes without giving it any  thought.  For this reason some folks keep going back and repeating the same behavior thinking they will have a different result.

Let me caution, I am not telling you not to ever go back, but to understand why you do?  But here is something to consider. How satisfied are you with your teenage experience or your twenty, thirty, forty, fifty, sixty, seventy or eighty something years experience? I implore you to create new experiences and live your best life. Live your Chosen Life.

Leave me a comment to let me know why you would go back to an experience.

You hold the key to your success

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You hold the key to your success. We all seek after that successful life and  some of us are looking in the wrong places for it. Sometimes, we seek after that “dream” job because we believe it will give us success. Other times, we seek after that house, car or even a partner because we have convinced ourselves that it will bring us the success we seek. How about money? Too many of us believe that, if we had more money we would have that successful life. There isn’t anything wrong with seeking or having any of these items. What is wrong is believing that by seeking and acquiring them they will make you successful.

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