Dr. Maxine Wright Walters

Life is a Journey

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False Expectation Appearing Real

fear3Are you experiencing, FEAR— False Expectation Appearing Real?  Fear is a powerful emotion and can have a devastating effect upon its victim. I want to tell you that there is a place in your life that we will call the Fear Zone. When you enter this zone, it does not matter why, you will experience fear.  In that moment you seem not to be able to focus on anything other than the False Expectation Appearing Real. Physically, for some, your palms sweat, your heart races and for others you tremble.  My encouragement today is for you to stay away from that zone.

Sometimes we go to the Fear Zone because we create expected results. Note what I am saying to you. We create the results we expect and think what it will be for a particular situation, and because we do not anticipate those results to be good, we tremble with fear. Other times we visit this zone because of fear of the unknown. We do not know what to expect and we are in fear. The fear of dying would be an example. On our Best Life journey, we must be aware of the Fear Zone.

If not dealt with, fear can be a crippling emotion. For the person experiencing this fear, it seems real. For those of you who have a FEAR experience, you know exactly what I mean by this. Regardless of what I am telling you here, in the experience of fear, it can be different if not managed.

How then do you deal with this? If possible, stay away from the Fear Zone by assuring yourself that there is not anything to be afraid of. But for those who enter, tell yourself  and believe that the experience will come to you and you will ride it out. Know that you will consciously walk through the experience as it unfolds—be open and embrace it. Live your Best Life, Your Chosen Life.

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Doubt Can Destroy Self

doubt can destroy selfDoubt can destroy self. It is  a very powerful word and you should be aware of that. The action of doubt can lead you into dark places. It  can also lead you to do nothing because you do not have the courage to override the thought of it.

When you doubt, you are unsure. However, it comes with some amount of fear experience. In some instances the fear can cripple you.  Doubt is preventing many of us from doing simple things like getting a job or just going out and having a good time.

Now you ask, how do I get beyond doubt.  I want to tell you that you should keep looking forward and through the windshield of life. Keep doubt so far back, that you can only view it in the rear view mirror of your life. You must self talk to not be entwined by it. Tell yourself you have the courage to override it by letting self know “You can do this.” At first you probably won’t feel like anything in your space is changing, but keep telling yourself. Over time, you will feel the atmosphere  around you change and your confidence starts to build. This happens because you  are speaking life changing words to yourself. You are now believing these words and it shows. The best person to do this is you.

You will notice that your confidence booms and this is always exciting. If, you have to look in your rear view mirror and you see doubt back there, remember it is in the rear because you passed it. But, to ensure that your mind don’t go back to embracing it, you must repeat  your self talk. Do this every time you feel the word doubt greeting you. Cripple it and live your best life. Your Chosen Life.

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Are there cobwebs in your life?

IMG-20141204-WA0003Are there cobwebs in your life? Cobwebs are unwanted and uninvited things in your life.  You must eliminate them in order to enjoy your Best Life .  They are old spiderwebs and are usually found in areas not disturbed or occupied for a while.

It’s getting to be the end of summer again, and time to clean cobwebs from your life. They  suggest inactivity. Here is what I want you to consider—Are there inactive things in your life that you need to remove?  Are these things consuming all your energy and stifling your growth or taking over your life without your permission?

The bigger the cobweb, the longer it was left  undisturbed, resulting in its growth. How large are your cobwebs? Are there areas in your life that need cleaning? Have you been procrastinating the inevitable? The spider, which is the source of the cobweb can be very dangerous. However, you may not always see them  making the web or even lurking around. So are some of the things in your life. They are dangerous and can harm you, but you are not aware. When given the opportunity, they will pounce. Pay attention, these things can be persons.

Cobwebs can and will entangle you. Getting untangled from them is time consuming and very much like spinning your wheels. For this reason you must keep removing them. Keep seeking them out and destroying them.

I want you to make a cobweb schedule so you can relieve yourself of them. You must use your eyes  to find them and remove the web as well as the source—the spider. That is the only way for you to eliminate them.  Cobwebs clearing is a Best Life practice.

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Relationships are finite

relationships are finiteRelationships are finite. Yes, they are interactions with a life span, so enjoy them.  However, no one knows their duration, so I want you embrace every interaction.  Show up and be present.  The finiteness of it allows you to focus on the now, and bask in it.  Feel your energy levels soar and happiness just bubbles up from within you because you are present.  You are now in unison with the universe. You are in the ebb and flow of the Alphabet Circle ™.

Enjoy all your relationships without your focus being on their life span. What’s important, is to remember to enjoy them  while they last. Sometimes, at the conscious level you never have a clear reason why some relationships end. However, I want you to know that they were meant to end when they did. You are on the Alphabet Circle™ where Life is a Journey. Don’t pine over it. Yes, you will miss it, but be open for the next one that is coming along. Don’t block the new relationship by focusing on the one that just ended and has served its purpose.

I caution you to not get attached to your interactions in such a way that you are destroyed upon their end. I am saying to be fully present, but do recognize that none of these relationships are eternal. Do not project what you would like it to be. You are setting yourself up for disappointment. Stay with what it is. Live your life boldly and with purpose.

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Living your Best Life is a Quest

IMG-20141204-WA0003Living your best life is about a quest. You are always on this quest because you must  remain in that space of Best Life.”  With that said, you must be deliberate. Be on your quest to find happiness in all your relationships because this will give you peace. This is a work in progress concept as it will take time, but continue to do it.

Be on your quest to create the life you want as this is the unique life for you. You must be deliberate and methodical.  Be on your quest not to live in the past, but to live in the present.  Show up and be present and enjoy the now moment.  This will always be liberating for you. For all you are enjoying is life as it is unfolding, no assumptions.

Be on your quest to live your life with motive.  Make a decision as to what is important to you very early on the Circle. You should always be at peace with your decisions.  If you are not at peace you must check in with your internal energy system.  Your soul is reporting something other than what you are receiving and so you have no peace about your decision. Don’t be afraid to not participate in things that do not sit well in your soul just because it is pleasing to another.

Be on your quest to have the desires of your heart.  These are the things that you desire for you.  The universe hears those desires coming from that energy of desire deep within and will respond because it is your  heart’s  yearning.

Be on your quest to follow your passion.Your passion is important to you and you only.  Seek it out, find it and capture it because passion leads to purpose. Living on purpose is part of your Living your Best Life—Life is a journey experience.

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HOW DO WE RESPOND TO EVENTS IN OUR LIVES

Our ResponseHow do we respond to events or things in our lives, especially when we feel like we have no control over the situation? For some of us we do so explosively and for others with calm. When we have an encounter with someone else we have an interaction, which results in  an experience. How we respond plays in our Best Life practice because our response carves in the experience. It can make the journey pleasant or miserable.

Let’s talk about our response.  We cannot control what others do, but we can control how we respond. A calm response is what the Best Life seeks. This may not be natural for many. However, with practice it is achievable.

I want you to Breathe, deep and hard as you embrace your experiences.  You don’t need to rush out to get the experiences because  they will come to you.  Be present and it will happen. It will happen at the right moment. Breathe, be present and allow yourself to experience each interaction and take away from it what you need.

If you sit at the ocean’s edge and notice its waves, you will see that they move to one rhythm. They tend to rise and move into the shore with a soft swoosh. You notice the togetherness of the waves as they move through different volumes of water. Also, they move in one direction. So is our path on our Life’s journey. It is one directional and we are connected to our experience. Our response is proportional to the interaction when we BREATHE and are in sync. That is, our response can be elevated as or it can be demure.  BREATHE and take note of your response.

Like we listen to a song on the radio and tap our feet, or even sing along, we must do the same with our experiences. We must breathe and absorb, so we can dance to the rhythm of our experiences.  Breathe and listen. What is the beat of the interaction? We are on our Best Life journey. Make it count.

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